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Back in 2006, I traveled to the Australian capital for an admissions interview for medical school. My plan was I would book a place to stay when I arrived, however once I got there, a major event was happening and all the budget hostels and affordable lodging had no vacancies.

As a visitor from Singapore, the idea crossed my mind perhaps I could spend the night at the airport – only to discover that airport, unlike Singapore’s, closes all night. Unsure of how to proceed and getting a bit desperate, I caught a bus into town and began walking towards the casino, believing I might spend the evening in a place that stayed open 24/7. That wouldn’t put me at my peak for acing a crucial interview the next day, yet, as a student on a tight budget, luxury accommodation was impossible.

We could all use more individuals like that woman.

I must have looked out of place as a female student spotted me wandering around the city and inquired if everything was alright. I recounted my situation and right away she suggested I was welcome to sleep on a spare mattress of her dormitory at the local university – a perfect solution, considering that was where my interview was the following day. Generously, she also provided a meal: a leftover sandwiches she brought back her part-time job. I was able to use warm shower facilities and a secure location to rest to sleep.

Looking back, I now understand the significant risk she undertook as a woman allowing a male stranger who was a complete stranger sleep on her floor. In those days I was in a bubble of male privilege and not even thinking to such safety concerns. Now, as a father, I’m amazed she took that chance – and remain deeply appreciative.

Ultimately, I did not attending the Australian National University, and I didn’t meet the student afterwards, yet her memory has stayed with me that incredible gesture of generosity. It is my wish life has returned her generosity abundantly. Our society requires more people like that woman.